5 Tips To Avoid Tantrums In Children

At the age of 2 to 5, any child can experience a rage, and this is when  tantrums are the most common. This outburst of anger and frustration, overwhelming them, fills us with guilt and raises questions for our parents. But you can avoid tantrums in children by anticipating certain situations.

The ideal is to avoid situations that trigger such  tantrums . Sometimes it will be doable, sometimes not so much. In any case, do not despair. Staying calm is the key to getting the situation under control.

5 key tips to make your tantrums less frequent

Tantrums in children are the result of their emotional development. Children begin to feel, recognize, and manifest emotions such as anger, anger, or frustration. Later they will be able to control them, but at such a young age they are not yet better able to manage these emotions.

Around the age of two, a child begins to feel independent. He realizes that what he wants doesn’t always match what his parents want. Tantrums occur precisely because they want to impose their newly realized “will” by testing their parents.

Third, we must understand that tantrums are more common in some children than in others. Every child has a temperament that will surely influence how they behave in the face of the emotions they feel. Even among siblings raised in the same way, one child may show more fury than the other.

Understanding these three basic factors gives us 5 tips to avoid tantrums. We hope you will be able to put them into practice before the “storm” of conflicting emotions breaks out.

1. Avoid unnecessary questioning

There are things a child “has to do” and things that a child “doesn’t have to do.” This is. But evaluate whether or not it is necessary to execute your command at this particular point. Maybe you can let him “take control” for a few minutes and then do what’s necessary.

For example: it’s winter and your little one should wear a jacket. The child refuses. If you can still wait a few minutes before buttoning up your jacket, why do you want to press them to zip it up right away? When it feels cornered, it explodes because there is no other option.

Let him “decide” for a few minutes not to fasten it. Then, when he feels the power and gets cold, you can fasten them.

2. Anticipate frustrating situations

If they’re doing something they like, such as being in the park, but it’s time to go back, let them know in advance that that moment will come soon. You don’t have to surprise your toddler with a sudden decision.

Sometimes we trigger tantrums because we put children under unnecessary stress or situations they don’t understand or like. Sometimes we have to wait for the fury to explode to realize that it was a completely predictable situation.

3. Dispense the use of “no”

Parents’ constant use of “no” causes many tantrums. Parents’ refusal causes rebellion. Rate when you can say yes. Also, evaluate when, instead of saying “no,” you might offer an acceptable alternative to your child.

Of course there are “no” which are unquestioned. If a child is about to insert a metal object into an electrical outlet, the “no” is not negotiable. But these are not always extreme situations. Assess what are the moments when you can fulfill some of his requests.

4. Set clear and reasonable limits

Before tantrums begin in your home, take advantage of quiet times. It is necessary to establish what the boundaries are that children must respect and which they must learn to adapt to.

On the one hand, you cannot control everything your child does, tries, plays or dresses. Too much control limits the children’s desire to experiment with their independence. On the other hand, children must not be given too much freedom.

Little ones should know that there are limits that cannot be exceeded without consequences.

5. Take care of the child’s well-being

Although tantrums are emotional outbursts, they can be caused by physical discomfort. This can happen if the baby who has not eaten in time for lunch or has missed a nap. Then he can break out of anger because he doesn’t know how to deal with it or communicate the physical discomfort he is feeling.

To this end, your ally will be to establish a routine timetable. Try to follow nap, meal, snack or bathing schedules. This regularity will ensure your child’s safety as well as adequate rest and satisfaction.

Then tantrums will not break out for these reasons.

When fury breaks out

Despite following all of these recommendations, fury began. When your emotions explode, the first thing you should do is stay calm. If you get angry, you won’t help your child.

In general, tantrums surprise even children because of their unmanageable energy. Therefore, it is important to stay calm, to help him not hurt himself or attack others. Your child needs you to regain his composure.

Ignoring or hitting a child during a tantrum will not help him at all. You only teach him to suppress his emotions, and that always has dire consequences. Your child needs you to regain peace, do not deny him your love and tenderness.